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If you were a brainiac in school but weren’t one of the popular kids, you may think you had the last laugh when you went on to land that high-paying job. But what good is having lots of money if you have no friends?

The truth is, almost anyone can be smart and have a decent social life - you just need to realize it takes a little work to be in any worthwhile relationship. The trick is not to alienate people with a know-it-all attitude, but rather to master some basic social skills.

Follow these guidelines to stop being a “smarty-pants” and find balance between your big brain and a healthy social life:

1. Observe And Assess How You’re Currently Perceived

Do people run away when they see you coming? Do they roll their eyes when you start pontificating? Do they leave feeling smaller than they felt before you arrived? If this is the case and you want to make more friends, it’s time to work on honing your conversational techniques. (Just remember, what people think of you isn’t the most important thing in the world, but observing others’ reactions to you is a great way to know where to start working on your self-knowledge and personal development.)

2. Wait To Weigh In Until Someone Asks
While we were taught to be a good scout and offer help when someone is in trouble, it’s another matter when we butt in and offer unsolicited advice or knowledge. This is especially true when people are trying to work out a problem by themselves. If and when you are asked to pitch in with your know-how, keep it simple and concise without taking on a condescending tone.

3. Don’t Dominate the Conversation

A good conversation requires a relatively equal amount of talking and listening on each participant’s part. Make an effort to contribute interesting content (keep the details to a minimum), but then step back and listen intently to what the other person has to say. When you listen, it shows that you care about they have to say and this gives others a good feeling about you.

4. Do What Your Grandma Advised and “Be Nice”

Until you get to know someone, be conscious of avoiding off-color humor and try to avoid too much talk about religion and politics. These can be incendiary topics and you can offend someone or discourage a budding friendship if you say too much too soon. When you know someone better, that’s when to see if they might enjoy a friendly debate about deeper subjects.

5. Remember the “Platinum Rule”

Go beyond the “Golden Rule” and instead, treat people how they want to be treated. Most human beings want to be respected and treated with kindness, consideration and a caring attitude. This especially holds true when people feel insecure about their own intelligence or level of education. It pays to be humble – they might enjoy talking to a smart person, but not at the expense of feeling stupid.

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