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Are you aggressive, passive or assertive? When you’re hanging out with friends or being interviewed for a job, it makes a big difference…

  1. Aggressive: It’s happened to pretty much everyone at one time or another. People are sitting around in a group enjoying each other’s company... except for that one girl who just doesn’t quite get it. When she joins in, she comes off as hostile or angry, and more times than not, ends up hurting someone’s feelings or damaging the conversation. In other words, she has an aggressive communication style.

  2. Passive: Then there’s the opposite end of the spectrum, where, no matter how much you might want a person to make his opinion or desires known, he just can’t seem to find the strength or will to do it. There’s a sense that he regards everyone’s feelings and rights more than his own; he will agree with everyone and try at all costs to avoid confrontation. This person is considered to be passive.

  3. Assertive: The person who manages to find a balanced place between the first two communication styles is assertive. It means he can easily stand up for his own rights and point of view without trampling on those of others. This is considered by most medical and psychological experts to be the ideal style of communicating, and the one that will get you the farthest in both your personal and your professional life.

How You Communicate
How can you tell if you have an aggressive communication style? Watch others while you speak with them. If they seem to be intimidated when you talk, or go out of their way to avoid interacting with you, it’s a clue that you may need to make some adjustments. Also, pay attention to how you sound when you speak. If you tend to easily find blame with others or are quick to judge them, those are hints as well. And body language says a lot. An aggressive person will by physically confrontational.

If you communicate in a passive way, you may be excessively apologetic or allow others to make decisions for you. If you find yourself agreeing with both sides during an argument or if you refuse to express your own opinion even when it’s to your own detriment, these are signs that you may feel powerless and opt for passive behavior. Likewise, a passive person tends to hide in the back of a group and cross their arms or keep their gaze down.

If you’re not sure what your communication style is, you can ask others for their opinions, either directly or anonymously, because sometimes it’s hard to know exactly how you’re perceived.

Advantages of Using An Assertive Communication Style
The good news is that, even if you’ve learned to be aggressive or passive when talking to others, you can learn to adjust your communication style and be able to express yourself in a conversational tone and with a friendly demeanor. With the help of a counselor or by reading about the subject of “assertive communication styles”, you can begin to fine-tune how you speak with others and make changes that will increase your chances of success both in business and in life.


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